Press Release: What Men Wish Their Wives Knew About Men (Marriage Counseling)

OCALA, Florida, January 4th, 2008 -- Public speaker and Christian author, Dr. Raymond Force, believes that wives are sometimes "their own arch-enemies" when it comes to getting what they want out of their husbands.

In his new book, Angry Without a Cause, Dr. Raymond Force writes:

"The woman that ridicules her husband by making sarcastic remarks and subtle inferences to his lack of leadership and abilities is not only hurting her husband, but also herself. She is not only ensuring that he will have a tough time rising above her low view of him, but she will also end up despising him for not being half the man that she has discouraged him to be."

Dr. Force agrees that men are in need of reform when it comes to marital issues, but he also feels that the real issues that are keeping women from having a positive affect on their husbands are often overlooked.

"Most books that I have read on marriage and relationships portray men as relational clowns," says Force. "Whereas, women tend to get off 'scot free'. It is true that most husbands need to change their approach to marriage, but many wives are unaware that their frustrated phrases and condescending remarks are pushing their men into an emotional pit."

When asked if men are emotional creatures, Force says, "Of course. They just don't typically 'wear it on their sleeves' as much. Men are very emotional creatures that yearn for respect. When they don't feel that from the women in their lives, they tend to retract into their 'caves'. Sadly to say, many men hang out at the gym or the office because they feel more respected there than in their own homes."

Dr. Force, in addition to directing Hitting Home, has hosted his own television show, appeared on numerous radio programs, and served as a Christian family counselor, pastor and public speaker for 15 years. Force's goal is not to expose negative actions just for the sake of being negative. He desires to help people to see their self-defeating behavior in a whole new light.

An excerpt:

"Throughout time, women have been tempted to withhold their love and affection toward their husbands because they fail to measure up to their expectations. A woman that has given in to this temptation must realize that when she holds back from loving her husband because he doesn't meet her standards, she is simply holding her love as a ransom until he comes up with the appropriate payment. This is actually a form of manipulation."

Newsflash: What Wives Wish Their Husbands Knew About Physical Intimacy

Men, Anger, and Physical Intimacy (Excerpt taken from our book, Angry Without a Cause.)

"Physical intimacy has been designed to be a physical expression of what has been going on all day long between a man and a woman. I often tell people that it is the top of the mountain that you begin to climb at the beginning of a day with your spouse. Men, you start that ascent by serving your wife, helping with the housework and the children, organizing a romantic getaway, calling her just for the sake of calling her, and speaking and acting kindly toward her. It should be noted that nothing aggravates a woman more than when her husband comes home and speaks rudely, neglects to connect with her and the children, watches TV for three or four hours, and about 10 P.M. says to his wife, "Hey, how about it?" If your wife is not emotionally involved with you, then she will typically have a difficult time being physically involved . . . As far as anger is concerned, a man cannot speak in a harsh and cutting way toward his wife and expect her to undergo an EMOTIONAL METAMORPHOSIS between 10:30 and 11 PM. Generally speaking, it just doesn't happen. Romance may start for you at 10 P.M., but for her it starts at 10 A.M. "

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About the Author:

TV Host, Public Speaker (at the age of 22, Raymond conducted 110 speaking engagements in an 11 month period), Marriage/Family Counselor, Radio Talk Show Guest, Pastor, Christian Author and Founder/Director of Hitting Home are a few of the roles that Dr. Raymond Force has played in his quest to help others in an out-of-control and undisciplined world. Having underwent his own personal struggle with anger, he brings more than book knowledge to the table in Angry Without a Cause . In fact, here are a few excerpts from the book which illustrate this point:

(From the Introduction of the book)

"Although this is not a 300-page book with a multitude of footnotes, it does happen to be a compilation of my studies from the School of Hard Knocks. It is, in a sense, my thesis, and your response will decide my final grade. Just remember, good books are not measured by the yard, but by the pound, and it is not those that read many books that do well, as much as those that master a few!"

(From Chapter 7 - Don't Get in My Way!)

"Early in our marriage, I was really into me. I had a horrible addiction. I was addicted to myself . . . I was supremely focused on me, and I was not very thrilled with anyone else that wasn't interested in the same.

I was not a fountain, but rather, I was a drain to those around me. Especially my wife. I withdrew much more than I deposited, and I was, indeed, the black hole of our family. (By the way, every dysfunctional family has one.) . . ."

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Look What Others are Saying About Our Book, Angry Without a Cause:

"As I read your book, I kept thinking of person after person that needed to read it." - Single Dad, Jacksonville, FL

"I recommend this book to everyone with anger issues. Great content!" - Woman, San Jose, CA

"Loving the book!" - Husband, Father, and Pastor, Gaffney, SC

"Who told you about me before you wrote the book?" - Wife, Ocala, FL

"It's tremendous!" - Wife and Mother, Sapulpa, OK

"Possibly the most powerful book on anger on the market today" - Husband and Father, Clermont, FL

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About the Book:

More than another self-help book, Angry Without a Cause gives its readers a practical, yet Thought-Provoking look at God's view of anger. From a Christian perspective, Angry Without a Cause dares its readers to look within and view their anger in a whole new light. This must read for everyone also deals with:

Parenting

"My best material on parenting seems to come from hanging out at Wal-mart or any local retail store. On more than one occasion, I have either hidden behind a manikin or pretended to look at something longer than I needed in order to witness a less-than-Biblical approach to parenting. More often than not, I have observed that parents are unjustifiably using anger to correct their children.

     Let's take a moment to review a common scenario that takes place in many homes today. Imagine yourself working at your computer when one of your children starts to bang on the computer table with his Fisher Price hammer or her brand new baby doll. How do you react? Many parents do the following . . . "

Sarcasm

     "Sarcasm is simply a subtle way of venting our frustrations toward others. It discourages unity, closes spirits, and eats away at the emotional integrity of our homes. It does little to make ourselves, our faith, and our God attractive to those closest to us (especially our children), and though it is often senseless, it seems to be a widely accepted form of communication. In high school, I learned that sarcasm is one of the seven elements of humor. Funny thing, I've seldom seen the humor in cutting remarks that wound people's spirits and hurt a person's self-esteem."

Living with an Angry Person

     "Before I delve any deeper into this section, I have a confession to make. I am not a very secure person, at least, not in and of myself. If the truth be told, not too many people are. Naturally, most struggle with feelings of fear, inferiority, and inadequacy. To compensate for this inner dilemma, most people trust in something to help them deal with their feelings of inadequacy. Sports, money, looks, automobiles, houses, peers, jobs, and male-female relationships are among the top sellers. However, some are also using their children, grandchildren, or even their prominence in religious circles to improve their own sense of worthiness. . . . "

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Chapters:

Chapter 1 - Dad Said
Chapter 2 -Children
Chapter 3 - Your Spouse
Chapter 4 - The Church
Chapter 5 - Be Ye Angry
Chapter 6 - Sarcasm
Chapter 7 - So What's the Problem?
Chapter 8 - Making Progress
Chapter 9 - Dealing With an Angry Person

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